SEX! Now that Ive got ur attention....lets talk about it lol. Now I realize some arent comfortable with the confines of the bedroom being on the internet for all to see (unless your name is Robert Kelly) but this is a major major major part of life and relationships and I would me ignant if didnt at least acknowledge it.
Now my opinions, beliefs, practices on this can (and prolly will) go on for several posts but wat THIS post is to focus on is wat this blog is about, me gettin outta my head and expanding yours. Now Ive had countless sexual conversations about variations and beliefs as I said and Ive come to realize that my open nature surprises the vast majority of people. Now this doesnt mean Im some sort of nymphomaniac who gets pleasure from any and everything but I kno wat I like and Im quite adept at tryin to make sure that it happens as often as possible *shrug*
I cant tell you how often Ive heard people jus shoot ideas or things down off the bat (now that isnt to say people should be open to everything cause as open as I am there are a bunch of things I dont/wont do, jus keep an open mind is all) or give the tired "well maybe when Im married" answer. BS! I highly doubt ur whole mentaliy on an act is gonna change because of a title...then again it might (see title post) and if it doesnt than you should be doubly as ashamed. Unless ur savin it all for marriage then there is absolutely no excuse for people to try that limitation simply because its like severely limiting oneself.
Me personally if someone told me cantelope was the shit and I had never tried it but someone else told me it was lame that would spark my interest to try it. Now I know there are many other factors cause cantelopes arent people and eating them isnt sexual (for most) but the point was simple curiosity and adventure should compel a good amount of us to actually explore wat we like and dislike. Unfortunately not everyone will be in a situation where they feel safe or willing enough to attempt things and thats the solace marriage holds I jus find it to be a dam shame that it would need to be taken to such extremes for one to fully enjoy themselves and step outta their heads every once and a while, a good orgasm can save a life man
I would be ashamed if a sex talk didnt include this, it suits the topic so perfectly :D
@ItsJus2Easy
Now my opinions, beliefs, practices on this can (and prolly will) go on for several posts but wat THIS post is to focus on is wat this blog is about, me gettin outta my head and expanding yours. Now Ive had countless sexual conversations about variations and beliefs as I said and Ive come to realize that my open nature surprises the vast majority of people. Now this doesnt mean Im some sort of nymphomaniac who gets pleasure from any and everything but I kno wat I like and Im quite adept at tryin to make sure that it happens as often as possible *shrug*
I cant tell you how often Ive heard people jus shoot ideas or things down off the bat (now that isnt to say people should be open to everything cause as open as I am there are a bunch of things I dont/wont do, jus keep an open mind is all) or give the tired "well maybe when Im married" answer. BS! I highly doubt ur whole mentaliy on an act is gonna change because of a title...then again it might (see title post) and if it doesnt than you should be doubly as ashamed. Unless ur savin it all for marriage then there is absolutely no excuse for people to try that limitation simply because its like severely limiting oneself.
Me personally if someone told me cantelope was the shit and I had never tried it but someone else told me it was lame that would spark my interest to try it. Now I know there are many other factors cause cantelopes arent people and eating them isnt sexual (for most) but the point was simple curiosity and adventure should compel a good amount of us to actually explore wat we like and dislike. Unfortunately not everyone will be in a situation where they feel safe or willing enough to attempt things and thats the solace marriage holds I jus find it to be a dam shame that it would need to be taken to such extremes for one to fully enjoy themselves and step outta their heads every once and a while, a good orgasm can save a life man
I would be ashamed if a sex talk didnt include this, it suits the topic so perfectly :D
@ItsJus2Easy
PREACH!!
ReplyDeleteWhy do i have to feel like A Sexual Deviant for wanting to bring a donkey in the bedroom?? all jokes aside, i think if your willing to commit to knockin boots(not baby making but pure unadulterated sex)then why would't try things??
I mean at this point in my life i have sex because it brings me Joy an Pleasure - so wouldn't just make sense to do it to the max!! Let me be as Joyous and Pleasured as i can be...Damn
I feel like the Max Power theme song needs to be inserted here or that line from Forgetting Sarah Marshall (which I looked for but couldnt find) but if your with someone and engaged in sex than why not try to do the most interesting thing possible, doesnt mean you gotta put stuff in everyones butthole or anything but lets remove some of the stigma on things like positions and such man, we're grown and its a new age sheesh
ReplyDeleteHey Jelani,
ReplyDeleteI was a little confused as to what you were saying about the Marriage part.
I was simply referring to the fact that many people will say that they wont partake in certain activities (oral or anal sex or watever) until their married or unless their married thereby severely limiting themselves and their experiences
ReplyDeletefurthering on that marriage thought, i just don't understand why being MARRIED to someone suddenly makes you so comfortable or open-minded to try new things, sexually. if you're having sex with ANYONE you don't really trust then.... you probably shouldn't be doing it. but if you trust them enough to engage in the act, then at least try whatever is offered to you. or, crazy thought, offer some of your own ideas!
ReplyDeletebeing sexually open doesn't make you a skank [step off, leslie]. that misconception needs to die NOW. it just means you're willing to try things. maybe even enjoy them and make them regular parts of your repertoire. it is very possible to be a decent, upstanding person with high morals and a HIGH sexual drive.
i blame organized religion for making sex such a taboo subject. people are missing out on SO much.
I wish this blog could be the platform to murder a lot of these pre-existing misconceptions unfortunately it can only be a means for an end but essentially sex itself requires some trust otherwise ur jus giving it away really but seriously the fact that sex is so taboo hurts me (literally smh) but hopefully some can jus try to think for themselves
ReplyDeleteWaiting 'til I'm married means I want to experience those kinds of things with one person for the rest of my life. Sometimes I feel like arguing the marriage, and sex argument with people is useless, because it's almost always agree-to-disagree. It's not that you're closed minded about things before marriage, it's that you don't want to engage in them until then. For folk like me who want to honor God and do things that please him, I choose to be celibate until marriage. For me, marriage isn't just a unity to 2 people, it's a unity to 3: You, your partner, and God. I'll put more down on this later, maybe. I'm in a rush right now trying to get to this halloween party.
ReplyDeleteI disagree with that lol Im kidding. No I dun disagree at all with that, if your choosing to be celibate until marriage and choosing to experience all of those things with 1 person SUPERB! This post is directed at all of those people who are out there having a fair amount of sex and then using that marriage argument as a fall back and I find that to be quite lame personally is all :D Hope you had fun
ReplyDeletei dunno why i came back to this after so long... but personally, my issue is with people who like to pick and choose what things they find sacred and to be shared with a husband/wife. anything they're scared of or uncomfortable with, rather than say "let me be open-minded and just put myself out there to try it" they say "no, thats something i'll only do when i'm married; that's special for my husband." ain't nothin special about it, you just don't wanna try.
ReplyDeletei would have much more respect for someone who tries something enough times to realize they don't like it, then says honestly, "no, i just don't really like to do that -- sorry."