Similar to the previous post on getting better as opposed to getting bitter I feel that I have to touch on standards keeping that same ideal in mind. Personally I've never been all that hard to please but recently Ive come to realization that I dont need to take peoples crap as a result of that. I can be laid back and easy going but hold people to a MUCH higher standard. In this realization Ive come to realize that people have this silly thing called pride and its a really hard thing to step away from and that usually it clouds their ability to take any criticisms. Oftentimes if one is feeling "shamed" or "scolded" by a peer or worse yet someone younger than they are, they tend to completely discredit the entire argument and sadly theres not much that can be done about that other than get a stress ball or a good camera (to take a picture) and a punching bag (to place said picture on) and go to town.
Now the thing I was wondering in regards to someone having high expectations/standards for themselves and others is simply how high is too high? Now I kno this is where all the weed heads are gonna scream "nothings too high!" then grab a sandwich and stare at their hands, however the fact remains theres a fine line between having high expectations/standards of people and being an elitist with unattainable standards and a judgemental attitude. The problem is avoiding falling onto that blatantly jerk side and staying on the side, the quiet secretive jerk side lol.
So now for the wrap up, the summation, the reason most of you who read keep coming back....Standards shouldnt be sacrificed or lowered unless YOU (yea Im pointing at you...I can see you) decide to but just make sure that if their high your prepared to be perpetually dissapointed or extremely isolated (neither of which are bad but just you to KNOW and be prepared). Expecting a lot from people is a lonely, lonely life unless you get lucky (:D)
Fast forward to 2:19 for the immediate relevance of the video but your welcome to enjoy the entirety of the episode since its HILARIOUS and relatable on a whole jus because the Ashley's represent that elitist perspective...cant believe 9 year olds are capable of bein this big bitches *smh*
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Now the thing I was wondering in regards to someone having high expectations/standards for themselves and others is simply how high is too high? Now I kno this is where all the weed heads are gonna scream "nothings too high!" then grab a sandwich and stare at their hands, however the fact remains theres a fine line between having high expectations/standards of people and being an elitist with unattainable standards and a judgemental attitude. The problem is avoiding falling onto that blatantly jerk side and staying on the side, the quiet secretive jerk side lol.
So now for the wrap up, the summation, the reason most of you who read keep coming back....Standards shouldnt be sacrificed or lowered unless YOU (yea Im pointing at you...I can see you) decide to but just make sure that if their high your prepared to be perpetually dissapointed or extremely isolated (neither of which are bad but just you to KNOW and be prepared). Expecting a lot from people is a lonely, lonely life unless you get lucky (:D)
Fast forward to 2:19 for the immediate relevance of the video but your welcome to enjoy the entirety of the episode since its HILARIOUS and relatable on a whole jus because the Ashley's represent that elitist perspective...cant believe 9 year olds are capable of bein this big bitches *smh*
@ItsJus2Easy
picture, punching bag, hilarious.
ReplyDeletethere really is nothing wrong with having high standards. you just can't get mad at other people for not living up to your crazy high standards, simply be willing to count your losses [and hope they don't take shit too personally "how could you, you're such an ass, why are you being so difficult, etc, etc" and just understand you're doing what's best for YOU]. and, as you said, understand that having higher standards limits the circle of people you allow into your life. it can be lonely but i strongly believe it is WORTH it. quality not quantity [cuz even relationships that are "exclusive" have a much higher turn over when your standards are lower].
and... :D
Ya essentially thats the thing with standards I kinda see it as if your going to be a jerk regardless may as well be a Vince instead of an Ashley (minus Spinelli) in that you know ur standards and dont impose them on people unless asked and jus let people do them, not jerk-like I kno but I started with a jerk theme and had to run with it
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