Now before you think Im some sort of spoiled only child who has no idea of his roots wheel back, 2/3 homie :D Ive been spoiled as long as I can remember but that doesnt reflect me or my actions jus those of my parents who jus so happen to try to give everything they could to their last child.
That being said I wanna break down the word "family". Most consider it to be the people who share your bloodline or genetics. Some view it as the people your closest to, others view it as a group they idealize and wish to be related to (Superfriends, Star Wars/Trek etc) Now I have come to realize family is who u make it. Whomever you choose to play the biggest roles and be the most important to you... Now that isnt to say I agree with making fictional characters in your family (sorry Yoda) but the relationship SHOULD be reciprocal meaning you should matter to them too.
Now personally Im at the stage of my life where Im fine tuning my inner circle but for the most part my peoples have been wit me for YEARS. I can say that have 20+ year friendships at age 23, a feat that feels like it defies mathematics itself. Others are older than most of the teens you see roamin the malls in the evening before dinnertime. That isnt to say my biological family and I dont get along, wen I was siblings starved for all those years many of them became surrogates and ceased being cousins and were my siblings. No disrespect to any of my family, siblings or cousins but I do have the family that I drift towards as a result and as much as I love em all, if some weren't "blood" we prolly wouldnt "converse"....that may have been 1 set of quotes too many.
Point is no one should feel they owe anyone anything due their title because titles confuse and hold weight that mess with peoples heads. Those friends who Ive known 2 decades wont ever be referred to as my "best friends" simply because that carries a stigma I dont want attached to me but title hatred (ironic due to my wrestling love) is a blog for another time back to the blog at hand, family is subjective and for lack of a better phrase it is what you make it. Dont feel compelled to deal wit BS from anyone under the justification of title cause that leads down a dangerous path, do you and try to find people who fit that
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That being said I wanna break down the word "family". Most consider it to be the people who share your bloodline or genetics. Some view it as the people your closest to, others view it as a group they idealize and wish to be related to (Superfriends, Star Wars/Trek etc) Now I have come to realize family is who u make it. Whomever you choose to play the biggest roles and be the most important to you... Now that isnt to say I agree with making fictional characters in your family (sorry Yoda) but the relationship SHOULD be reciprocal meaning you should matter to them too.
Now personally Im at the stage of my life where Im fine tuning my inner circle but for the most part my peoples have been wit me for YEARS. I can say that have 20+ year friendships at age 23, a feat that feels like it defies mathematics itself. Others are older than most of the teens you see roamin the malls in the evening before dinnertime. That isnt to say my biological family and I dont get along, wen I was siblings starved for all those years many of them became surrogates and ceased being cousins and were my siblings. No disrespect to any of my family, siblings or cousins but I do have the family that I drift towards as a result and as much as I love em all, if some weren't "blood" we prolly wouldnt "converse"....that may have been 1 set of quotes too many.
Point is no one should feel they owe anyone anything due their title because titles confuse and hold weight that mess with peoples heads. Those friends who Ive known 2 decades wont ever be referred to as my "best friends" simply because that carries a stigma I dont want attached to me but title hatred (ironic due to my wrestling love) is a blog for another time back to the blog at hand, family is subjective and for lack of a better phrase it is what you make it. Dont feel compelled to deal wit BS from anyone under the justification of title cause that leads down a dangerous path, do you and try to find people who fit that
@ItsJus2Easy
Valid points being made all around. It's funny that when i tell people me and my mom don't get along the first thing they say is "you shouldn't say that" as if admitting to it, is what makes it true. In life you can't please everyone and its sad that in a life so short people can't bury there differences but "Ces't la Vie"(thats right i'm frenching your blog{No Homo}).
ReplyDeleteBut in essence, F*^# Title's, Labels, Headings, Prefix's etcetera. Don't do something cause you think your supposed to, do it cause you "want"(within lawful reason) to.
Thanks again Grouch I feel as though people are quick to hate and become shocked and appalled when they hear that titles arent getting along and Im like well that doesnt necessarily mean shit what people attach to each other is what determines their roles and importance
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