Wanted: Chivalry - Dead Or Alive

Recently I had a conversation with a friend of mine who shall remain nameless... (Diana) about the status of Chivalry because her BBM status said it was dead. Me being the guy I am took offense to that because I am as chivalrous as I can be in the new millenium work a day world and I know of gentlemen who I consider to be even more chivalrous than I (Fiddy and my Bermy Brethren Im looking at you). I mean I do understand where shes comin from and why she would make a statement like that but I was offended nonetheless.


The conversation did however spawn some critical thinking: What is chivalry? I could give you the Wikipedia definition, which is surprisingly thorough and touches on some things that this post will touch on too. It started off by referencing knights and as much as I enjoy tales of King Arthur and Robin Hood and such that stuff has little relevance in the world of today and to my post I jus thought Id mention how fun knights are (The Black Black Knight for Halloween?) The relevance it does offer is that the definition of this word was made in a time where toilet paper didnt exist and when a dude used "protection" it was furry for her pleasure Meaning that a word defined in the 1400's cant still exist in its original form in 2011 or it cant in the way many of the idealistic women who claim it to be dead want it to be. See a large problem of this idea of "chivalry" is that it differs from woman to woman. Some want to be pampered and taken care of but still do whatever it is they want whenever it is they want to do it and answer to no one which will inevitably lead to them being dissapointed or spoiled...both terrible fates, shame. Others want bits of both that not only conflict with each other but what they want from a "man" altogether. Some want a strong man but want him to be sensitive as a poet yet still ambitious and entertaining but not an attention seeker and have the fashion sense of a gay designer. There are none few out there but how many of them arent insane or come with their own serious amount of baggage. Of course theres jus the ones who simply want a man who isnt a jerk and reasonably normal... pffft clearly THEIR the ones asking for too much (can I do sarcasm or can I do sarcasm?)

So what do we do now? Chivalry as we knew it is technically dead but does that mean we should be overrun with douchbaggery? Definitely not. We remake chilvalry, rebuild it. We have the technology, we have the capability to make this definition better than its ever been. Instead of it meaning men have to take the role and do cheesy romantic comedy-esque things (If I ever see a dude put his jacket in a puddle rather than jus help the broad walk around so help me) we can make it so that its about mannerly behaviour (which is what I consider it to be). If your polite and sharing and giving then that should display what it means to be chivalrous in 2011 because quite frankly too much "traditional chivalry" and a women will walk over you, not enough and your an ass not "husband material"; the answer as usual is: Moderation.

Lastly women I need to make sure I say this clearly; Step away from your Disney induced fantasies about Prince Charming coming in and making it all okay. That is a major problem/hurdle for re-defining chivalry because many of those same women are "modern" and believe in equality yet still hold these horribly traditional (conflicting) ideals. Expect real get real and by that I mean have realistic expectations of people and their more likely to be met rather than a dude whose arriving via horseback sporting a cape. Does this mean Im goin back on my earlier post of standards? Nope have em, their important but so is being realistic about peoples limits. Expect a please and thank you  and an opened door every now again not a bow courtesy and a cape on a white horse is all Im sayin.

This following clip from Dave Chappelle is prolly the funniest best summation of this topic. He's joking but he makes some good points and makes you wanna rethink your uniform wardrobe

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