"Never Fall In Love, Just Stand In It"

This quote came from my good friend BG's father and its as simple as it sounds (as most of my titles are). When you find someone and your growing into those deeper mushy feelings with them, just to try to keep your feet somewat on the ground (dirty times dont count, then anything goes ;D). Please dont take this as some sort of love bashing or anything, Im all for deep intense love and such but I'm jus tired of seeing people (yours truly included) spiral outta control because they fell in it and are struggling to get back up, by which I mean their trying not to let their emotions take full control of them and their rationale. I know Ive said it in some post (I know exactly which but I dun wanna self promote) that I fall and fall hard often and I wanted to share my experiences and what I've learned from that......Love is a sneaky mofo that will try its best to trip you and have you drown in it like passing out in a shallow pool.


The first part is the initial feelings. Its hard to pinpoint when they start happening because of how subtly they can happen and oftentimes people don't even realize they've been stung by the love bug (that b*tch smarts). Initially that sting is all cute and unnoticeable to the untrained eye so here, we're trying to train eyes to catch these little things earlier. If/When you start finding yourself laughing to yourself over absolutely nothing, when you find yourself driting off and thinking about said person, when you find yourself singing love songs for absolutely no damn reason (sans fat suit) are ALL signs of infatuaion/ deeper feelings and while they should be enjoyed, do not let yourselves get caught up in them and stop thinking critically....PLEASE. This is the 1st misstep that leads to tripping and falling headfirst into love kinda like a botched cannon ball. Just realize and enjoy the feelings but keep your feet on the ground by thinking realistically and logically and remembering this is the stage known as "puppy love" or "new relationship energy" meaning that it feels like ur on a drug high. If you took morphine for fun you'd prolly have the same reaction but the ish wears off and you wanna wake up in a safe place and not some random hotel room handcuffed to the bedhead wearing nuthin but chocolate syrup & whip cream (I know your thinking a little too detailed to be an example rite? Well I've had a vivid past...this wasnt apart of it tho :p) Point is "puppy love" or "new relationship energy" don't last forever and when those initial feelings fade you'd like to have a relationship built on more sturdy ground than infatuation emotion, that would be like building a house on sand....our outta straw or twigs

If you dont accomplish this all hope is not lost for you (although a lot of it is gone..nah I'm kidding...kind of) there are still things that you can do to salvage yourself its just much hard to work backwards and re-plant yourself on the ground. Now in order to work backwards and plant yourself firmly on the ground you have to double back and counter all those romantic, lovey dovey, floating on thin air cartoon infatuation feelings with solid logic. What that accomplishes is it pulls you back from that corny romantic comedy love and puts you into a mindset to fully *appreciate* and understand your feelings instead of just letting em happen as they happen. Being in control of your feelings doesn't mean you have to be a robot or robotic (although your more likely to be, just saying) just aware and conscious really....I know it's much easier said than done but I believe in Harvey Dent you (people). The moral of the story, enjoy your love people not all of it is gonna go the distance but for it to even have a chance we gotta use our intellect and ration too.

This song just kinda reminds me of that feeling of sappy head over heels and I know (and have) that people have sung it to their significant other with full sincerity in the midst of them falling.... that and I jus wanted to post a Drake song and this vid is the bustiest best of em all :D (minus Find Your Love, which may even be more applicable...dah well)



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